Is love destined or is it a choice?
neither. i don't believe there's any such thing as fate or destiny; whatever happens, happens. we can't control it, but that doesn't mean there's any sort of pre-determined path that our lives are going to take, either. and it's absurd to think anyone can choose who they love. if that were the case, nobody would ever end up staying in a miserable or abusive relationship, and there'd probably be zero heartbreak and failed relationships, because we could all just choose not to love someone who hadn't chosen to love us.
that said, though, i do think some degree of choice is essential to a successful
love relationship. we might not be able to choose whether we love someone or not, but when a relationship hits a low point, we can choose whether we want to work on it or give it up. other than that, choice plays no role at all when it comes to love. but nor does "destiny."